Suck it up babes- you want a great relationship or a good enough one, these are fundamentals to help you have a far more fulfilling and happier relationship and better sex.
As a Sex Coach, Sexologist and Relationship Therapist, I work with a diverse range of people who are seeking sex therapy and couples counselling to help improve their intimacy.
My sessions are done online or in-person in the Geelong area and in Ocean Grove.
A relationship is a little like a garden, it needs to be nourished, attended to, pruned back and given extra juicy food at times to kick of those incredible fruits.
Here are 6 traits that are often overlooked and essential:
1.TOLERANCE:
If you want a successful relationshipÂ
tolerance allows YOU and your partner to maintain some
genuine sense of self.Â
You are quirky to someone else, that thing you do, whilst you think is normal is your version of normal. READ THE WHOLE POST HERE & FOLLOW ME
2.FLEXIBILITY:
Tolerance has a friend.Â
Its flexibility.Â
Flexibility is going with the needs of the moment.Â
Sure you wanted to hang on the couch and watch the latest episode of Bridgerton, but she has a deadline and needs your help to read over the final draft.Â
Being flexible means you tolerate change, you can adjust your needs for the needs of the other.Â
Flexible means when things don’t go as planned you take a breath and go with the flow.Â
3.CO-PARENTING & SUCKING IT UP:
News alert parents and wannabe parents
Having Kids is hard work. Challenging.Â
Boring and costly.Â
And the most heart opening, rewarding and often fun things to do, however...
One of you will have to work a lot, at worse both. I hear so many people complain, being victim rather than being conscious that it’s just parenting and each stage will be different. Yep it’s hard work, but harder when you resist your own inner child.Â
Be present to the moments of bliss, there are moments. Sure there is endless washing and cooking but that’s what being a parent is about.  Parenting is a job, you might be the cook and cleaner more than they are, and yet they’re literally bringing home the bacon. Acknowledging the work of both people, accepting the roles and offering assistance to your partner to help with chores & parenting, goes along way.Â
4.RELATIONSHIP SEX:
Relationships thrive when there are consistent choices to choose each other and demonstrate that. This is the theory behind relationship sex.
If sex is difficult for you, or your find it a chore, painful or something you don't like then seeing a Sex Therapist and having your own Sex Coach is extremely helpful. Couples Counselling is beneficial and I see couples in Geelong area and online over zoom.
There will be times you won’t feel like sex...(KEEP READING HERE:)
5.EFFORT:
You think relationships should just work?Â
That you should only have S3x when you feel like it?
Welcome to the garden of relationships.Â
If you don’t put in any effort to garden, plants wilt, weeds spring up and plants shoot suckers ups all over the place…
Effort ain’t sexy but it can be.Â
Effort looks like a kiss as they leave. It’s picking up flowers just because. It’s organising a surprise date night. It’s turning up to watch her footy match. It’s telling her she looks amazing. Effort, is going out of your way to get the kids so they can go to exercise class.Â
6. LOOKING FOR THE GOOD:
Studies have shown that when one person is looking for greener pastures and comparing, relationships go south quickly.Â
However, Relationships where couples consistently look for the good in their relationships thrive.Â
A positive Mindset towards anything in life affects the outcome.Â
A mindset where you look for the good in your partner, you notice what they are doing well & what you love about them, nourishes the well of gold.Â
COUPLES COUNSELLING in GEELONG and the SURFCOAST. And Sex Therapy offered online, inspiring somatic based counselling and sexology sessions.
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